Question 1 

1. Empathy is simply feeling pity for      someone else.

True 

False 

1.5 points   

Question 2 

1. Sam and Denise are marriage      mentors, and they both try to echo each other’s points as they mentor      Daniel and Maria. According to Les and Leslie Parrott, what are they      demonstrating?

  

Understanding each   other’s strengths

 

Empowering each   other’s voice

 

Influencing each   other’s abilities

 

Embracing each   other’s differences

1.5 points   

Question 3 

1. If you disagree with something      your spouse has said to the mentoree couple, you should just let it go so      you don’t model conflict to the mentoree couple.

True 

False 

1.5 points   

Question 4 

1. The authors use this Biblical duo      as an example of how to have great teamwork in mentoring:

  

Paul and Timothy

 

Abraham and Sarah

 

Aquila and   Priscilla

 

Mary and Joseph

1.5 points   

Question 5 

1. Which of the following is a task      involved in building rapport?

  

Identifying with   the couple

 

Demonstrating joy

 

Establishing   credibility

 

Both A & C

1.5 points   

Question 6 

1. In order to be able to identify      and understand another’s emotional terrain well, you must be intimately      familiar with whose emotional terrain?

  

Your spouse’s

 

Your parents’

 

God’s

 

Your own

1.5 points   

Question 7 

1. What are the two parts of empathy?

  

Skill and attitude

 

Caring and skill

 

Attitude and   sympathy

 

Both A and B

1.5 points   

Question 8 

1. Marriage mentors are allowed to be      passive about finding a sense of direction in the mentoring relationship.

True 

False 

1.5 points   

Question 9 

1. Rapport accentuates ____ and      downplays _____ so that understanding and a sense of connection are      increased and maintained.

  

Love; faults

 

Trust; differences

 

Similarities;   differences

 

Love; negativity

1.5 points   

Question 10 

1. Just as Jeff and Melinda in the      text, couples must have always had great teamwork skills to qualify as      candidates for marriage mentoring.

True 

False 

1.5 points   

Question 11 

1. You must establish with the couple      before mentoring starts how long you are committing to mentor a couple.

True 

False 

1.5 points   

Question 12 

1. Judy is expressing her frustration      about her horrible day at work to her husband, Matt. Matt listens intently      as his body language mirrors Judy’s. This phenomenon is called:

  

Intentment

 

Supportant

 

Entrainment

 

Entrapment

1.5 points   

Question 13 

1. The first priority of becoming an      effective marriage mentor is ______.

  

Mastering people skills

 

Mastering   confidentiality protocol

 

Mastering building   rapport

 

All of the above

1.5 points   

Question 14 

1. If one of your voices is muffled      in the mentoring process, true marriage mentoring disappears.

True 

False 

1.5 points   

Question 15 

1. _______ are particular words used      by your mentorees that seem to be highly valued by the mentorees.

  

Trigger words

 

Specific terms

 

Criteria words

 

Both A and C

1.5 points   

Question 16 

1. _______ requires no training or      skill

  

Empathy

 

Sympathy

 

Caring

 

Rudeness

1.5 points   

Question 17 

1. _______ fades the moment your      mentorees think you might be losing interest.

  

Trust

 

Confidence

 

Progress

 

Rapport

1.5 points   

Question 18 

1. All of the following are points      that will help ensure teamwork as a marriage mentor couple except:

  

Embrace your   differences

 

Understand your   unique strengths

 

Empower each   other’s voice

 

Support each   other’s advice

1.5 points   

Question 19 

1. “It doesn’t matter how accurate      you are if you are aiming at the wrong target.” This quote from the text      refers to which concept in marriage mentoring?

  

Always try to get   two birds with one stone

 

Be sure your   couple’s goals are in tune with Biblical understanding

 

Always choose the   couple’s goals for them to make sure they are Godly

 

Be sure your goal   for mentoring a couple is not selfish

1.5 points   

Question 20 

1. Knowing your objectives for      couple’s mentoring provides all of the following except:

  

Direction

 

Purpose

 

Sense of comfort

 

Calling

1.5 points   

Question 21 

1. As a couple, you and your spouse      must have worked through an area of differing opinions before you bring up      that topic in conversation with your mentoree couple.

True 

False 

1.5 points   

Question 22 

1. According to the authors, all of      the following are essential to our survival as humans:

  

Camaraderie

 

Solidarity

 

Affection

 

Commonality

 

All of the above

1.5 points   

Question 23 

1. Another important word for delayed      gratification is ______.

  

Patience

 

Discipline

 

Self-control

 

Delayed   gratification

1.5 points   

Question 24 

1. In marriage mentoring, remembering      the big picture only sometimes makes the smaller goals more attainable.

True 

False 

1.5 points   

Question 25 

1. What are the three factors      necessary to assuring you have established a deep level of credibility?

  

Dependability,   Ability, and Opportunity

 

Opportunity,   Trustworthiness, and Consistency

 

Ability,   Credibility, and Opportunity

 

Dependability,   Opportunity, and Loyalty

1.5 points   

Question 26 

1. How well one empathizes determines      how well one _____.

  

Mentors

 

Cares

 

Understands

 

None of the above

1.5 points   

Question 27 

1. The idea of a __________ is presented      to couples to help them identify what they want different in their      marriage and what they would like to work towards in mentoring.

  

Genie in a Lamp

 

Miracle Question

 

Magic Button

 

Holy Spirit Dove

1.5 points   

Question 28 

1. According to the text, which is      not a minimal suggestion for setting mentoring outcomes?

  

Topics to be   covered

 

How to measure   progress

 

How often to meet

 

Expectations of   mentoring

1.5 points   

Question 29 

1. David and Karen are mentoring      Jenna and Caleb. They noticed that Jenna and Caleb use the phrase, “hang      up” a lot, so they use this phrase frequently when mentoring them. This is      an example of:

  

Relating with them

 

Identifying with   them

 

Monitoring

 

Understanding

1.5 points   

Question 30 

1. Credibility is the quality of      being _____________.

  

Open

 

Smart

 

Believable

 

Direct